I must admit, you caugh me here. I do not have an answer for this question other than “I like to spend time on my own from time to time.” I like to go for a coffee, alone, and spend there hours reading, or writing, or just watching the people pass by. I know for a fact that some people don’t understand how that is possible.
A couple of years ago I was talking to a one of my best friends from uni who had recently been through a break up. We were going to move in together with another two friends in two months, and she told me she was kind of scared. She was scared because she was now “alone”. She didn’t have someone she’d go out with every afternoon, just to go for a walk. And she said: “I know you don’t mind being alone, but I do. I hate being alone.”
And now I say, at the end of the year she also found herself with her books and her computer at a café, on her own. I’d join her after my classes, or she’d join me after hers. The thing is, I do not mind going with you people, but the fact that today you don’t feel like going out for breakfast isn’t going to stop me from going.
It is good to do things on your own. You find your inner self, your deepest thoughts, when you’re alone. No matter if you’re in your bed, or at your favourite café, or bookshop. Just, for a few hours a week, give yourself a break. Go grab a book or your iPod and be alone for a while.
Then, call your friends and join them for a drink at the pub on a Friday night.
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